The Yes Challenge – Balancing Life
The day after I posted an article about the necessity for women to say NO, I ran across a wonderful blog by a mom who was inspired by the word YES. The post I ran across was about lust. She wrote with gusto and honesty about claiming her life. She also motivated many other bloggers to examine their life as well with her challenge on writing about a specific topic. I’m not someone who throws out an article in 15 minutes so by the time I finished thinking through the topic of the day, they’re onto to the word Yes.
I thought about why Jen and Sara felt so liberated about saying Yes. Then I realized, it’s because of the children. When the kids were young, I ran around saying no all the time on a personal basis.
- No: You cannot flush another bottle of shampoo down the toilet.
- No: You cannot try and see if your head fits between those staircase posts. (We were able to saw the wooden one open and save one kid.)
- No: You can’t try to drive at 13.
- No: You can’t have a cell phone even if Karen’s mom gave her one.
The list goes on but saying No does have an effect. No is a negative word and it makes you feel bad when you say it even if it’s the right thing to do. To counter that guilty feeling, I went in the opposite direction at work and for charity. I couldn’t stop saying YES until I got burned out. It took me a long time to learn balance between No and Yes.
These are the YES that helped me reclaimed myself.
Yes – I will take care of myself too. If I’m not here, the family goes down.
Yes – I will never forget to dream and dream big.
Yes – I will set goals and achieve them one by one.
Yes – Do I still like myself as a person? The answer should always be yes. If not, I need to examine why.
Yes – I will live consciously every day even if it’s just for a moment
Yes – I will be thankful every day for all the gifts in my life
Yes – I will never forget to tell my family that I love them every day even if it means that I have to (gag, spit) text after the 7th try because that kid won’t answer the phone.
Yes – I will try to make a difference
Yes – I will challenge myself to do something that I fear
Yes – I will learn from every person I meet
There are many other Yes in my arsenal but these are the ones that I trot out every day in my mind. They have helped me lived a life full of love, faith, adventures and richness. I’m not looking to find perfection but just enjoying the journey to whoever that I will become. Betty White, you’re my role model. Beth, here’s to those onion layers that we’re building for our 90s.
Here’s your challenge. How would you use YES in your life?
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